14 Jan

“There is one undeniable emotion, condition, or belief that is the complete antithesis of Sacred Acceptance. It is shame. It is impossible to be self-loving if we have any shame about ourselves, whether it be about our bodies, our behavior, our sexuality, our eating habits, the way we dress, the work we do, the people we love, or the thoughts we think.” (“I Am Who I Am,” p.27)

Shame kills. Brutally, cruelly, torturously. A long, drawn out death. It kills spirit, self-love, acceptance, understanding, courage, growth, compassion, non-judgment, harmony, and often the well-being of the body temple. Without sacred acceptance, the body temple does not thrive for very long. And without relinquishing shame, Sacred Acceptance is impossible.

I have found that shame nearly always starts in childhood with words like “you should be ashamed of yourself,” or “shame on you.” We don’t have to have it spelled out to know that this means we were bad, wrong, not okay. We figure out what circumstances caused the “shame on you,” and create a belief and a story about that, and a story about ourselves. Some of those stories become deeply imbedded within, especially when the incident and circumstances occur repeatedly. Soon, we find ways to hide, to get small, to be quiet, and make decisions about ourselves that can last well into adulthood… and beyond if we are not somehow awakened to this travesty.

How do you release the shame? What is the path of healing that reveals our true nature of light, laughter, kindness, compassion, love and sacred acceptance? I feel it is best managed through the concept of what I call the Realms of Revelation — because each step on the path from victim to nirvana is a revelation, which is merely the revealing of the truth of who you are and who you are becoming. If you don’t know this process, it is explained quite well in the book and indeed is the basis for navigating the journey of sacred acceptance. Basically, it is moving out of victimhood, realizing your power, recognizing Spirit’s work through you, and surrendering into knowing there is no separation between you and God. It’s quite an excellent way out of shame.

Two quick practices for releasing shame: (1) speak it… moving it out of the dark and into the light is curative! (2) stand up for yourself: “I will not be shamed about _________.” Step out of the shame stories of the past.

Shame is sneaky, so stay aware. And don’t judge it when you find it. Love it instead! Investigate what there is to heal. Bless the opportunity to reveal the truth. Then give yourself a hug… and smile!! Life is Good!


“I AM strong, shame-free, and in alignment with my values.” (“I Am Who I Am” p. 36)

Blessings, gratitude and love,

Alison xox


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